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As a child I learned basic etiquette. “Please,” “thank you,” NC State University and N.C. A&T State University are col-
“you’re welcome,” “excuse me,” and “I apologize” are phrases lectively committed to positive action to secure equal opportu-
I learned early in life and that cover a variety of scenarios and nity and prohibit discrimination and harassment regardless of
situations. It is part of my basic etiquette tool box I use every age, color, disability, family and marital status, gender identity,
day. It is a tool box I must remember not everyone has. Shortly genetic information, national origin, political beliefs, race, re-
after starting my position as a 4-H agent, I took a group of teens ligion, sex (including pregnancy), sexual orientation, and vet-
to Raleigh for a program and stopped at a family restaurant eran status. NC State, N.C. A&T, U.S. Department of Agricul-
to buy them lunch. I had maybe six teens with me, who or- ture, and local governments cooperating.
dered and we had polite conversation, excited to be out on their
own (without parents) and enjoying the experience. When the ABOUT N.C. COOPERATIVE EXTENSION
food came one child was shocked at what was put before her. N.C. Cooperative Extension is a strategic partnership of NC
She ordered hamburger steak and it was obvious from the tone State Extension, The Cooperative Extension Program at N.C.
in her voice when she said “What’s that?”, she had thought A&T State University, the U.S. Department of Agriculture’s
it would be a hamburger. Quickly realizing the issue, I qui- National Institute of Food and Agriculture (USDA-NIFA), and
etly offered to get her a hamburger instead but she declined. local governments statewide. Extension professionals in all
What came after that was a tirade of utensils being misused, 100 counties and with the Eastern Band of Cherokee Indians
mishandled, and ultimately flung across the table in frustra- connect millions of North Carolinians with research-based in-
tion because this child had never had to use utensils to eat. Her formation and technology from NC State and N.C. A&T. Edu-
food had always been something she could eat with her hands cational programs specialize in agriculture, food and nutrition,
(fried chicken, sandwiches, hamburgers, etc.). The other youth 4-H youth development, community development, and the en-
did their best to help her with her utensils, because she did not vironment.
want adult help. I searched my brain on how this happened,
and realized as a child my parents gave me these tools to help
me through any social situation. Not wanting another child to
deal with this type of frustration, I realized there was a need for
etiquette training, and we could set our youth up for success by
offering it.
OPEN DOOR MINISTRY
OPEN DOOR MINISTRY
So, every other summer, 4-H has offered a one-day etiquette OPEN DOOR MINISTRY
course. We cover everything from greetings to dressing for
success, electronic (and now virtual) manners, and yes table,
manners. We do it in a very fun and realistic manner. We
partner with a nearby resort for a multi-course lunch. We have “For I Know The Plans
“For I Know The Plans
“For I Know The Plans
I Have For You,
the youth throw a mixer with adults at the end of the day, and Declares The Lord,
I Have For You,
I Have For You,
Declares The Lord,
they figure out how to balance a cup of punch and a plate of Plans To Prosper You
Declares The Lord,
Plans To Prosper You
Plans To Prosper You
appetizers while shaking hands and carrying on a conversation. And Not To Harm You,
And Not To Harm You,
Plans To Give You u,
It is a fun day where the youth write a thank you note, gain And Not To Harm Yo
Plans To Give You
Plans To Give You
some confidence, and walk away with a book we created to Hope And A Future.”
Hope And A Future.”
Hope And A Future.”
give them something to refer to as they get older. I love when JEREMIAH 29:11
JEREMIAH 29:11
JEREMIAH 29:11
parents tell me their child is now insisting the family sits at the
table for dinner and is setting the table (getting out their book
to make sure it is right), or starting to use words like “please”
and “thank you.”
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