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Managing Grief During the Holidays

(Family Features) The holidays, as well as birthdays and other one should openly and honestly discuss wishes with friends
celebrations, are often difficult for anyone who has experi- and family and clarify what they are comfortable with and have
enced the death of a loved one, particularly during the first year the emotional bandwidth to do.
of adjusting to life without them.
Acknowledge the Loss
The holiday season may result in a renewed sense of grief, es- Families can find ways to honor their loved one’s physical ab-
pecially as well-intentioned individuals are encouraging those sence during holiday celebrations by incorporating their spirit
who are grieving to participate in traditional festivities. While into celebrations and holiday traditions. Examples of this could
there can be joy in being together with family and friends, the be decorating ornaments in ways that are symbolic of a loved
holidays can also bring feelings of sadness, loss and emptiness. one, cooking their favorite meal or making a memorial dona-
tion to a favorite charity.
For those who find themselves struggling with grief during the
holidays and other celebrations, consider these ideas from Re- Reflect On and Embrace Fond Memories
membering a Life, an online resource from the experts at the Memories of a loved one, both from the holidays and other
National Funeral Directors Association. special times, are an important legacy. Rather than ignoring
these memories, talk about them with family and friends. It’s
Talk About Grief OK to laugh and it’s OK to cry. One way to facilitate this activ-
Grief isn’t a linear journey. Ignoring pain and emotions won’t ity is with Remembering A Life’s Have the Talk of a Lifetime
make it go away. Don’t be afraid to talk about grief with oth- Conversation Cards, which can help families share stories and
ers. Confiding in close family and friends can help a grieving memories about loved ones and themselves. It can make for a
person feel heard and understood. meaningful activity during holiday gatherings.

Establish Boundaries During the Holidays It is important to remember that even though an individual
Friends and family may encourage a grieving person to partici- may be grieving, they can still celebrate and enjoy the holi-
pate in the holiday just as they normally would. While these days. Find support and resources for grief during the holidays
intentions are typically good, it is important for the bereaved and other special times of the year at RememberingALife.com.
to set boundaries and focus on what they want. While grieving,

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